we figured it out, and the solution if anyone else runs into this is that if you are using vercel with a CNAME, vercel publishes CAA records that were blocking the issuance of ssl certificates on the Ory subdomain. You have to use vercel with an A record instead.
This article was helpful in figuring it out. Thanks
@swift-chef-97535 and
@famous-art-85498 for the assistance 🙂